Published in The Shadow·PinnedMember-onlyThe Reason Why We Have a Gender Wage Gap — My Latest Stay at MarriottMy daughter does competitive sports. The kind that require travel on weekends to competitions in neighboring states. Our latest adventure brought us to a Marriott and, for better or worse, the whole family went. It is stressful enough traveling with just my daughter, but when the whole family goes we…Gender Pay Gap5 min readGender Pay Gap5 min read
Published in The Shadow·Feb 16Member-onlyWe’re Just Gonna Work, Work, Work, Work, Work, WorkThe future of the economic woman has never looked brighter. She is bold and beautiful and has come out of the shadows and onto your LVII Super Bowl halftime stage. This past Sunday, her name was Rihanna. Rihanna’s pregnancy did not hold her back from performing on platforms high above…Rihanna4 min readRihanna4 min read
Published in The Shadow·Dec 11, 2022Member-onlyMy Deeply Personal Hell — The School Pickup LineEvery weekday minutes of my precious time are nefariously sucked up by the school drop off/pick up line elves, and I can’t take it anymore. This summer we moved across country, and when people ask me what the biggest difference is in our new environment, I tell them — the…Schools3 min readSchools3 min read
Published in The Shadow·Oct 21, 2022Member-onlyWhat Are You Going To Do About It?We all walk through this one life we have to live with the best of intentions (…sometimes). I’m not going to sugar coat it, interacting with humans is hard. What do they actually want? What do I want? What do I think they want? What do they think I want…Women3 min readWomen3 min read
Published in The Shadow·Oct 6, 2022Member-onlyRoofers, Alcoholics, and Bunnies: Care In CrisisI like roofs, and you should too. They help keep us dry and warm. I also love a tasty glass of high-quality reasonably priced Chilean red wine. I wish I loved bunnies as much as my spouse and daughter do, but I don’t. Even when one special bunny brings shiny…Childcare24 min readChildcare24 min read
Published in The Shadow·Apr 22, 2022Member-onlyMy Disease is Like the Crippled U.S. Care Economy — Invisibly Eating Away at Our Ability to ThriveIt was inevitable. Looking back at the evidence — the undisclosed family history, the crooked and oversized knuckles attached to my grandmother’s petite hands as she reached out for mine, symptoms slowly coming and going like waves rushing over my body — I should have, could have, anticipated it. …Psoriatic Arthritis4 min readPsoriatic Arthritis4 min read
Published in The Shadow·Feb 17, 2022Member-onlyThings Got Worse For Parents in Covid (Again).But are we getting attached to the perks of the new normal? I have news for all the parents out there. Life as we once knew it will never return — like ever. January 2022 was utter chaos, the stress for parents more palpable and the anger hotter than our most frustrating freshman moments in this eternal saga I have lovingly titled…Parenting5 min readParenting5 min read
Published in The Shadow·Jan 21, 2022Member-onlyWhy We Should Put Moms in ChargeI am exhausted by the pandemic. I am tired of waking every morning to feed my kids and send them to virtual class in the dining room, only to walk a few steps to my home office to start constantly interrupted work. These days, like so many other working parents…Gender Equality4 min readGender Equality4 min read
Published in The Shadow·Dec 30, 2021Member-onlyMy Wish List for You in 2022The year is coming to a close. Have you made the most of it? Most likely not. We are all still living through a raging pandemic, and that is unfortunate. But, for 2022, I wish five things for you — and here they are. …New Year3 min readNew Year3 min read
Published in The Shadow·Dec 21, 2021Member-onlyI am Tired of Being a Woman and Mother in the United States of AmericaMy parents divorced in 1978 when I was two years old. Right on the cusp of an accelerating divorce rate in the U.S. My father, bless his soul, was in and out of my life throughout childhood. My mother was left to pick up the pieces and carry the daily…Women4 min readWomen4 min read
